"Phubbing" - when models do this!

Hello,

until yesterday I didn't even know that the term 'phubbing' existed, until I was massively 'phubbed' myself. It happened to such an extent that I searched the internet for this behavior to find out whether I am intolerant or just too old, or if I have become a victim of actual thoughtlessness and impoliteness.

So what is "phubbing"?

"Phubbing is defined as the act of snubbing someone in a social setting by prioritizing attention to a mobile phone over engaging with the person present. Phubbing persons frequently check notifications or messages, which diverts their focus away from the person they are with. Instead of participating in the conversation or pay attention to a topix, they may spend time browsing through contacts or scrolling through social media feeds.
Additionally, they may interrupt ongoing discussions or workflow to respond to messages or take calls. Engaging in texting or messaging while someone else is speaking further exacerbates the situation, making the other person feel undervalued and ignored. These actions can  lead to feelings of frustration, anger and disconnection for those being phubbed."


My story is:

I had a model scheduled for two shooting sessions with a longer break for a meal, which we had agreed to take together in the studio and which was delivered from a restaurant.

However, this model never seemed to put her phone down. During our first talk and later our discussions about shooting detials, her gaze would drift to her phone at least once a minute or with every "bling" notification. Whenever a new message came in, she would respond with a quick "Sorry, just a moment," or go through several contacts.
When we were discussing important aspects or were in a tald and she could not pick up her phone instantly: I could almost feel her growing urgency and craving to check her phone with each moment passing by.

We had several short breaks where she had the opportunity to go through her contacts. But nevertheless she never put her phone down, or rather, she always had it in front of her on the table.

Even during our meal break, while we were eating, she had a fork in one hand while the index finger of her other hand swiped and typed on the phone. When there was nothing left to swipe, she allowed me a two-minute conversation!
One time she even played  loudTikTok videos. I eventually had to ask her to stop, which was met with confusion and a view that signaled an infringement on her right to self-determination by my side. The 'TikTok' was then abandoned with a sigh, as if to say, 'Fine, okay, if that backwoodsman insists on it this way!'"  
And so it went until the end.

Shooting was okay, but I never felt really comfortable and in a good mood and connection with the model.

Well: while I completely understand the need to stay connected with social contacts, It's easy to imagine how increasingly annoying this became for me.
I believe that part of a successful shoot involves exchanging ideas and having a bit of conversation from one person to another.

But what can I do? Starting an argument and maybe ruin the shooting? Or accept everything  and put on a brave face for a bad situation?

So what do you think? Is phubbing during a shoot something that aligns with current trends and should be tolerated?
Or is it ultimately a form of rudeness and thoughtlessness towards the host and the photographer?

Did you already make own and similar experiences?

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